How To Show Someone You're Interested

by Mike Hardcastle
for About.com




All you need is an attraction to another person and the desire to show them how you feel.

Here's How:

1. Create opportunities for you to see each other. This might include secretly waiting in the hall or sitting near him/her at lunch.
2. Make eye contact and smile!
3. When you pass him/her in the hall, say 'Hi!'
4. Get to know some of his/her friends
5. If you have a class together, ask him/her a question about it.
6. Ask him/her about something you know s/he is interested in.
7. Ask if s/he wants to hang out sometime.

Tips:

1. If you're like me, sending these signals can be scary. Start small and work your way up to the tougher steps.
2. Don't set yourself up to get hurt, make sure you haven't put your entire self-worth into whether or not s/he responds to your signals.

The Wallet ...

When I was little, I had wanted to write a love story, and I had wanted it to be the most romantic love story ever.

One day after school, I sat down and began my mission, my masterpiece was going to be a reality, I remember thinking.

The story was of a young school girl. One day, after school, she walked home. Unlike most afternoons, on that day, she stumbled upon a wallet. Picking it up, she opened the wallet and in it was a picture of a boy, about her age, and very smart looking. She tried to look for an address, and flipped the picture over. A love poem greeted her. I was determined to pen the most romantic poem to match the picture, but alas, till this day, I am still 'looking' for the most romantic poem of all...

Anyhow, the poem warms her to the boy. There was something in the boy that caught her fancy, was it his eyes, or was it the poem he penned at the back of his picture? She couldn't tell.

Soon, she caught herself staring at the picture all the time, even during lessons. How could she find him? Where does he live? What's his name?

One night, something strange happened...

The boy in the picture appeared in her dream, told him his name was Joseph, and he lived a few blocks away. And he asked her in her dream, would she mind meeting him at a park nearby their homes?

Her reaction was of course what you guess it would be, she waited for this Joseph after school the following day and hoped that her dream the night before was for real.

She couldn't belief her eyes when soon, this boy did walk by the park! She was so excited she drop some books she was holding. The boy, being a nice gentleman ( the way I wanted him to be), stride up to her, gave her the warmest smile ever, and helped her with her books. Oh my! Her heart were pounding, she felt so sure he could tell she was flushing. Could he hear her heart beat which was beating wildly too?

I then proceeded to make the two characters met regularly at the park, in the evening, after school. And the fun times they had together, helping each other with the home works, and playing games together when there were no homeworks.

Like some other love stories, I was going to drop the bombshell...if the readers haven't guessed already. How come the boy only appeared in the evenings? Why can't he come out on Sunday mornings?

All fun things, sweet things, romantic things, great things must come to an end...oh so sad! One night, Joseph appeared in her dream. In it, he looked so smart, his eyes sparkled like diamonds, there seem to be an aura of light about him and he flashed his sweetest smile on her, as usual. Then, lowering his head, he told her he need to make a confession. Its time for him to leave. The door to Heaven is opened and a guardian angel was there to guide him back to the Lord... The wallet she found that fateful day. He did not accidentally drop it. He was cycling home after school one day, and a car suddenly appeared from nowhere and rammed into him. His wallet flew off at the impact. He got up, but discovered to his horror that the people nearby could not see nor hear him. Later, he discovered he had died in the accident.

Joseph then told the young girl he saw her picking up his wallet and caught her staring at his picture all the time. He thought she was the most beautiful girl he had ever seen and he felt 'honoured' each time she looked at his picture. Somehow, he learned to enter the dreams of the living, and that was how he entered her dream. But, it was time for him to say good bye.

Yeah, I was guilty of making the same scene, the girl pleading for him to stay, she was crying tons of tears, and all that stuff. And that was my unpublished love story that I wrote when I was very young.

all i want for christmas is you

Merry Christmas, Everybody !!!

Everytime We Touch by Cascada

A favourite video of mine, the Final Fantasy animations blended well with this song. A lovely song by Cascada.

why do we always hurt the ones we love

Here we go again,
Hurting each other for no reason
Wondering why we keep committing the same mistakes.
Sometimes I'm feeling
That it's more than just illusion
Tell me why we keep pretending
Are we so scared of give and take?
Ohh...

CHORUS:
Why do we always hurt the ones we love?
(Why?)
Just when it seems we've finally made it through
Why can't we fly between the eagle and the dove?
Why do we always hurt the ones we love?

BRIDGE:
When you cry, the tears were falling like raindrops
From my eyes...why do we do hurt each other?
Tell me why we shouldn't try, are there some things we didin't share?
Why do I see you walking out right w/ me,
I see you standing here?

-INSTRUMENTAL-

Tell me why... do we hurt the ones we love? (Why?)
When we've finally made it through why can't we fly between the eagle and the dove?
Why do we always hurt the ones we love...ohh...

How To Cope with Unrequited Love

Sometimes the person you're in love with doesn't love you back. Believe it or not, it happens to almost everybody. In any case, unrequited love is painful: It can even feel like torture. Find out how to make the best of it with these tips.

1. Limit the amount of time you spend with the person who doesn't love you. If you can, don't see them for a while.
2. Come to terms with the fact that they don't share your romantic feelings. You need to accept that it's just not meant to be so you can move on with your life.
3. Try writing a mantra such as "It's time to move on" on a slip of paper and placing it in your jacket pocket. Every time you reach into the pocket, pull out the slip of paper, recite the words in your mind, and put it back into the pocket. This will help reinforce your commitment to getting on with the rest of your life.
4. Stay busy. Take up a new hobby such as painting, skateboarding or playing the drums. Join a sports team or work your frustrations out through exercise. It doesn't matter whether it's running, swimming or squash: Find something you like and commit yourself to it. Both your body and your heart will feel better.
5. Surround yourself with those who do love you. This could be your parents, grandparents, siblings, other friends or even pets. Don't be afraid to ask them for a little bit of extra moral support.
6. Hang around with friends who make you laugh. Chances are, at least one of your friends is brilliant at getting your mind off of the person who's causing you pain. Let them help you not take life too seriously.
7. Take some time each day to focus on a few of your good qualities. Remind yourself that you're a great person even if someone out there doesn't like you in a romantic way. Think about what other qualities you'd like to have -- more confidence, better taste in music, better dance skills, etc. -- and set some goals about attaining them.
8. Remind yourself that it would not be any fun to be with someone who didn't feel as strongly about you as you did about them. Think about what love should like and notice how equality plays a big part. You deserve to be treated the way you want to be treated!
9. Remember another emotionally difficult situation you've been through and how you got through it. Adopt some of the strategies you used in that situation to help you heal from this heartbreak.
10. Take a little time to nurture yourself, whether it's with a good few good books or movies, some extra time with friends or simply getting a bit more sleep.
11. When you're ready, start hanging out with other people you'd consider dating. Give yourself the chance to fall in love again and you undoubtedly will.

How To Know When It's Love

Found this piece of article on the web. And decides to publish it here because some of the advices are what I'm using. What irony!


You feel very strongly for another person and want to know if what you're feeling is the real deal. Ask yourself these difficult questions.

Here's How:

1. Ask yourself: 'Would I be willing to let her/him go if I believed it was the best thing?'
2. Ask yourself: 'Am I willing to wait for this person if s/he is not ready to have sex?'
3. Ask yourself: 'Would I feel the same way if s/he gained weight?'
4. Ask yourself: 'Am I willing to sacrifice my dreams to allow her/his dreams to come true?'
5. Ask yourself: 'Do I respect and admire her/him?'
6. Ask yourself: 'Would I feel the same way if s/he got sick?'
7. Ask yourself: 'If you two were in an argument, would you feel the same way?'
8. If you answered 'No' to any of these questions, think about why you gave that answer. Is it a lack of trust? Is it because you're afraid? Is it selfishness? Do you need more time to get to know each other?
9. If you answered 'Yes' to all of these questions, wow, you feel very strongly about this person. It sounds like you're in love!

Te amo, Cristina

This photo was taken in Antigua, Guatemala. On each note is the message, "Te amo, Cristina." -



This image is part of the "Winners of the 2008 International Photo Contest" (in People, Places and Nature categories) by National Geographic - click to see more

The Wife That Comes Back Alive

A funeral service is being held in a church for a woman
who has just passed away. At the end of the service, the pall-bearers are carrying the casket out when they accidentally bump into a wall, jarring the casket. They hear a faint moan.


They open the casket and find that the woman is actually still alive. She lives for ten more years and then dies.


A ceremony is again held at the same church and at the end of the ceremony, the pall bearers are again carrying out the casket. As they are walking, the husband cries out, " WATCH OUT FOR THAT WALL !"

The Curse Of Love

An old man goes to the Wizard to ask him if he can remove a "Curse" he has been living with for the last 40 years.

The Wizard says "maybe, but you will have to tell me the exact words that were used to put the curse on you."

The old man says without hesitation
"I now pronounce you man and wife ".

Listen To Your Heart

Memories

Love Thoughts

The beginning of love, is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not twist them with our own image -- otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them? The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of every-thing...they just make the most out of everything that comes their way.

The best kind of friend is the one you can sit on a porch with, never saying a word and then walk away, feeling like that was the best conversation you've had.

Don't go for looks -- it can deceive.

Don't go for money -- even wealth fades away.

Go for someone who makes you smile, because only a smile makes a dark day seem bright. Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched and those who have tried. For only they can appreciate the importance of the people who have touched their lives.

Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion and the romance... and you find out you still care for that person. Love comes to those who still hope even though they've been disappointed, those who still believe, even though they have been betrayed and those who still love even though they've been hurt before. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people, before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the right person, we should know how to be grateful for that gift. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. But, what is the most painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let the person know how you feel. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past ... you can't go on in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back! Don't expect love in return, just wait for it to grow in Their hearts. But, if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours. There are things that you would love to hear, but you never hear it from the person you want to. Don't be deaf to hear it from the person who says it with their heart.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you are smiling and everyone around you is crying.

When one door of happiness closes, another opens. But often we look so long at the closed door, that we don't see the one which has just been opened for us.

Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too. A sad thing about life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you ... only to find out in the end, that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.

It takes a minute to have a crush on someone ... an hour to like someone...a day to love someone...but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.

Love starts with a smile, develops with a kiss and ends with a tear.

The Best Love Quote

We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

Marriage Passbook

Received this inspired story from Kevin. Thanks bud. Worth a read.

Marriage Passbook

Jocelyn
married William this day. At the end of the wedding party, Jocelyn's
mother gave her a newly opened bank saving passbook. With $1000
deposit amount.

Mother: 'Jocelyn, take this passbook. Keep it as a record of your
marriage life. When there's something happy and memorable happened in
your new life, put some money in.
Write down
what it's about next to the line. The more memorable the event is, the

more money you can put in. I've done the first one for you today. Do
the others with William.
When you look back after years, you can know how much happiness you've

had.'

Jocelyn shared this with William when getting home. They both thought
it was a great idea and were anxious to know when the second deposit
can be made.

This was what they did after certain time:

- 7 Feb: $100, first birthday celebration for William after marriage
- 1 Mar: $300, salary raise for Jocelyn
- 20 Mar: $200, vacation trip to Bali
- 15 Apr: $2000, Jocelyn got pregnant
- 1 Jun: $1000, William got promoted
.
.
.
.
..... and so on...

However,
after years, they started fighting and arguing for trivial things.
They didn't talk much. They regretted that they had married the most
nasty people in the world.... no more love...
Kind of typical nowadays, huh?

One day Jocelyn talked to her Mother:

'Mom, we can't stand it anymore. We agree to divorce. I can't imagine
how I decided to marry this guy!!!'

Mother:
'Sure, girl, that's no big deal. Just do whatever you want if you
really can't stand it. But before that, do one thing first. Remember
the saving passbook I gave you on your wedding day?
Take out all money and spend it first. You shouldn't keep any record
of such a poor marriage.'

Jocelyn thought it was true. So she went to the bank, waiting at the
queue and planning to cancel the account.

While
she was waiting, she took a look at the passbook record.
She looked,
and looked, and looked. Then the memory of all the previous joy and
happiness just came up her mind. Her eyes were then filled with tears.
She left and went home.

When she was home, she handed the passbook to William, asked him to
spend the money before getting divorce.

The
next day, William gave the passbook back to Jocelyn. She found a new
deposit of $5000. And a line next to the record: 'This is the day I
notice how much I've loved you thru out all these years. How much
happiness you've brought me.'

They hugged and cried, putting the passbook back to the safe.

Do
you know how much money they had saved when they retired? I did not
ask. I believe the money did not matter any more after they had gone
thru all the good years in their life.

Scorpions - Still Loving You

Scorpions - Still Loving You

Time, it needs time
To win back your love again.
I will be there, I will be there.

Love, only love
Can bring back your love someday.
I will be there, I will be there.

Fight, babe, I'll fight
To win back your love again.
I will be there, I will be there.

Love, only love
Can break down the walls someday.
I will be there, I will be there.

If we'd go again
All the way from the start,
I would try to change
The things that killed our love.

Your pride has build a wall, so strong
That I can't get through.
Is there really no chance
To start once again?
I'm loving you.

Try, baby try
To trust in my love again.
I will be there, I will be there.

Love, your love
Just shouldn't be thrown away.
I will be there, I will be there.

If we'd go again
All the way from the start,
I would try to change
The things that killed our love.

Your pride has build a wall, so strong
That I can't get through.
Is there really no chance
To start once again?

If we'd go again
All the way from the start,
I would try to change
The things that killed our love.

Yes I've hurt your pride, and I know
What you've been through.
You should give me a chance
This can't be the end.

I'm still loving you.
I'm still loving you,
I need your love.
I'm still loving you.
Still loving you, baby...

Scorpions - Send Me A Angel

Scorpions - Send Me A Angel

wise man said just walk this way
To the dawn of the light
The wind will blow into your face
As the years pass you by
Hear this voice from deep inside
It's the call of your heart
Close your eyes and you will find
The way out of the dark

Here I am
Will you send me an angel
Here I am
In the land of the morning star

wise man said just find your place
In the eye of the storm
Seek the roses along the way
Just beware of the thorns

Here I am
Will you send me an angel
Here I am
In the land of the morning star

wise man said just raise your hand
And reach out for the spell
Find the door to the promised land
Just believe in yourself
Hear this voice from deep inside
It's the call of your heart
Close your eyes and you will find
The way out of the dark

Here I am
Will you send me an angel
Here I am
In the land of the morning star
Here I am
Will you send me an angel
Here I am
In the land of the morning star

How can i tell if she is attracted to me?

There are six clues that a woman is attracted to you. Here there are:

1.Eye-Contact

If you really want to know if she is interested in you, you need to check out her eyes. They tell the whole the story. It’s amazing that so many guys forget this, because deep down inside they all know it.

When a woman is truly interested, her eyes will be focused completely on you. You’ll be able to feel her attention. However, if she is not interested, her eyes will probably be scanning the room and the scenery.

Imagine if Michael Jordan was about to explain his biggest basketball secret to a 12 year old fan. How would the kid look at Jordan? Do you get the point?

Great eye contact will let you know if she likes you, and you’ll also want to look for dilated eyes, because they are a natural indicator and she has no control over it.

2.Nervousness

If the woman you are with seems to be nervous, there’s a good chance she is really interested in you.

Nervousness can come across in a variety of different ways, such as fidgeting, playing with her hair, or even biting on her lower lip. While many guys believe that her nervousness is bad sign, it can

actually be a “secret revealer” that exposes her interest level. Whenever people finds themselves in situations where they don’t want to screw up, there is a natural tendency to get nervous.

Nervousness is simply the emotional response associated with not knowing what to do + a fear of experiencing an undesirable outcome. For example, a woman may get nervous during a conversation with a new guy, because she doesn’t want to ruin her chances of getting the guy to ask for her phone number.

3.Opening up

If a woman starts to open up to you during the conversation, it’s a huge indicator that she could be interested.

After your first conversations go beyond the weather and other general topics, you’ll want to pay attention to “self-revealing” talk. If she begins to talk a bit about herself, particularly what type of woman she is, you’ll know that she is subtly trying to make herself more desirable in your eyes.

The next question becomes:

Why is she trying to make herself desirable to me? The answer is pretty obvious. People are incredibly predictable.

For example, if you were approached by a woman who was repulsive, ugly and fat, are you going to care about what she thinks about you? I’m assuming that you believe in being effective. People predictably desire to be effective at things.

4.Mirroring

Mirroring is another way that you can find out if a woman is interested in you. Usually, when a woman is interested in a man, she will subconsciously mimic the way he is standing or sitting, or mimic other body language as well.

If you see a woman that is mirroring your posture and your gestures, this is an instant clue that this woman is interested in you.

5.Smiles and Laughter

A woman that smiles at you and laughs with you is probably very interested in you and what you are saying, as well. Whether she shyly smiles as you are talking or she’s giggling at everything you are saying, this is a great way to tell that she is really interested.

If she never cracks a smile and looks unhappy and bored, she probably wants you to get lost.

6.Physical Contact

One way that you can quickly tell if a woman is interested in you is if she points to you with any part of her body.

If her face, or her shoulder, or even her leg is pointing to you, this is probably a good sign she is into you. If her body is pointing away from you, you’d better move on, because this woman can’t wait to get away.

If you can remember these 7 things, you’ll know without a doubt whether she likes you. Also I have no book to offer you. I have friends that continue begged me to write a dating guide because what I teach is totally different.

How to overcome insecurity when with girls

ITS ALL ABOUT THE WAY YOU THINK.

Is meeting women scary?

The answer to above question is... "if you think so".

If we train ourselves to respond negatively and feel negative emotions, when we feel good emotions, we become scared and find a way to retreat back to the bad emotions because they feel more familiar!

So, if you feel bad or negative or insecure about yourself, the following may happen:

• When you get a compliment, you feel the person complimenting on you is lying or being insincere.
• So when women express interest in you, you miss their signals because you don't believe they could find you attractive.
• When you have an opportunity to have a great experience with a woman, you let it pass by because you believe it will end badly.

So, in the end you feel comfortable with your BAD feelings and loose the opportunity to experience GOOD feelings.

Here are some quick tips to help you in overcoming your insecurities:

• Don't try making any situation perfect. But, try to learn from it. This will take out the pressure you unnecesarily built on yourself.
• Go over your list of negative beliefs, and for each one, create a positive statement to counteract it. Include a reference from your life if possible. Be positive... like dont say "I am not shy", instead say, "I am confident".
• Learn to rewrite your thoughts by replacing "can't" with "won't"!
• Carry yourself confidently, do not hurry things up. Move slowly!
• Remember most of your insecurities have no meaning at all. They only exist because you let them to exist.
• In this entire Universe, only you have the power of what you think and feel. Don't give this power to anyone else.

And always remember, in your life at every step have the power to choose: Feeling bad, or Feeling good... so what do you choose?

Video-Trish Thuy Trang- Lovely

This is one of the more beautiful and soothing song I've ever come across. Posted here for all to enjoy. Scroll down to the bottom of the lyrics for the video. Originally sang by Michelle Tumes.

You're the sweet dreams that soothe me
when I can't fall asleep.
You're the field
in the middle of the city.
When I'm rushing by
at the speed of light.

You're the strong resolution
when I find no peace.
You're the church bells ringing
in the evening.
When all is quiet,
Your whisper comfort
lifts my heart.
I get so weak.

Ohhh.... You're lovely, lovely
You're the center of my universe.
(my universe)
A thousand times
I look around me and I find...

Ohh... you're lovely. (lovely)
You're the center of my universe.
(my universe)
A million ways
cannot explain,
you're lovely.

You're the soft words that touch me
when I just can't speak.
You're the breeze on the ocean
in the morning,
reminding me
to greet the day.

You're the flowers I remember
seeing in Italy.
Colors through
a golden haze,
bright and radiant,
soft and fragrant
In the noon day sun,
it makes me sing.

Ohh... You're lovely, lovely
You're the center of my universe.
(my universe)
A thousand times
I look around me and I find...

Ohh... You're lovely, lovely
You're the center of my universe.
(my universe)
A million ways
cannot explain
You're lovely.

I understand...
There may be grief
and there may be pain.
But I am aware
You blind the darkness
with who You are
because...

Ohh... You're lovely, lovely
You're the center of my universe.
(my universe)
A thousand times
I look around me and I find...

Ohh... You're lovely, lovely
You're the center of my universe.
(my universe)
A million ways
cannot explain
You're lovely.




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Video-My Love Will Get You Home-Christine Glass

If you wander off too far, my love will get you home. 
If you follow the wrong star, my love will get you home. 
If you ever find yourself, lost and all alone, 
get back on your feet and think of me, my love will get you home. 
Boy, my love will get you home. 

If the bright lights blinds your eyes, my love will get you home. 
If your troubles break your stride, my love will get you home. 
If you ever find yourself, lost and all alone, 
get back on your feet and think of me, my love will get you home. 
Boy, my love will get you home. 

If you ever feel ashamed, my love will get you home. 
When there's only you to blame, my love will get you home. 
If you ever find yourself, lost and all alone, 
get back on your feet and think of me, my love will get you home. 
Boy, my love will get you home.

If you ever find yourself, lost and all alone, 
get back on your feet and think of me, my love will get you home. 
Boy, my love will get you home, 
Boy, my love will get you home.

Video- Bright Eyes by Art Garfunkel

Is it a kind of dream, Floating out on the tide, Following the river of death downstream? Oh, is it a dream? There's a fog along the horizon, A strange glow in the sky, And nobody seems to know where you go, And what does it mean? Oh, is it a dream? Bright eyes, Burning like fire. Bright eyes, How can you close the pain How can the light that burned so brightly Suddenly burn so pale? Bright eyes. Is it a kind of shadow, Reaching into the night, Wandering over the hills unseen, Or is it a dream? There's a high wind in the trees, A cold sound in the air, And nobody ever knows when you go, And where do you start, Oh, into the dark. Bright eyes, burning like fire. Bright eyes, how can you close the pain How can the light that burned so brightly Suddenly burn so pale? Bright eyes. Bright eyes, burning like fire. Bright eyes, how can you close the pain How can the light that burned so brightly Suddenly burn so pale? Bright eyes.

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Difference Between Love and Infatuation

Are you really in love? Or do you think that you are in love?

There is a big difference between Love and infatuation. Some people can't tell the difference, thinking they are in love but really it is a deep infatuation. Infatuation is instant desire - one set of glands calling to another.

Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.

Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy.
There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.

Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by their presence, even when they are away.

Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying.
But near or far, you know they are yours, and you can wait.

Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing them."
Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.

Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship, which makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.

Infatuation lacks confidence. When they're away, you wonder if they're cheating. Sometimes, you check.

Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. They feel your trust, and it makes them even more trustworthy.

Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.

Love is an upper. It makes you feel whole. It completes the circle. It fills the empty space in your heart.
Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up.
It makes you a better person than you were before. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you don't have. If there is no love in your life, whatever else there is has a lot less meaning. The secret of our being is not only to live but to have something to live for.

INFATUATION

Infatuation is a feeling; real love involves a commitment also. Infatuation is just love of emotion. Real love, though, is love of devotion. Only the emotions are affected in infatuation, but in real love both the emotions and the will are involved. Next, a person "fall into" infatuation, but "grows into" real love.

Guys, have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint?
This is infatuation! It is based totally on physical attraction. often you don't know much in-depth about the person you so-called love. Thus, infatuation is mostly biological. Also remember, never tell a girl you love her, unless you are willing to marry her.

Then, infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basically selfless.Infatuation is more interested in satisfying yourself and the feeling than it is in the other person.

Real love is primarily interested in the other person. It seeks to give instead of get.. Love unselfishly seeks the highest good for the other person.

Lastly, infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation.
This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if
you are truly in love.

LOVE

Now you know what is infatuation, we will go on to discuss about the details of a true love. Love is patient. The word translated "patient" means to wait patiently for the fulfilment of expectations.

When you have difficulty dating this girl and she does not want to come out, if you truly love her, you will not complain and blame her, you must look at the situation from her point of view - maybe she is having some problems which prevented her from coming out. You must react to it with patience and understanding.

Next, have you ever met someone you liked so much that you wanted to push the relationship and make it progress faster? Sure you have! Love, however, is willing to give a relationship time to grow at a natural pace.
It does not push but is willing to wait for the relationship to grow at a rate that is satisfactory to both parties.
Love is Kind Love seeks to encourage and build up others. It respects the feelings and emotions of others..
It finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy.

You can do the following:

1. Give one another things such as gifts and encouragement cards.

2. Compliment one another. Magnify the other party's strength.

3. Listen to one another. Pay close attention to what each of you has to say and make each other feel that what each says is important.

4. Treat one another special in public. Compliment and encourage one another sincerely in the presence of others.

5. Love is Not Jealous. Jealousy usually indicates an insecure and immature heart. Love wants the best for others, but jealousy is possessive. Jealous is reflected in the childish statement, "If he is going to talk to her, then he can just forget
about me!" Often, one person wants to totally possess the other and to restrict her relationships with others.

6. Love is not about bragging. Love is not a windbag and is not anxious to impress. Often a guy will brag to a girl, trying to impress her so that she will like him. A truly great person, however, does not need to exalt himself! Others will exalt him.

7. Love is Not Arrogant. Love is not conceited, boastful,cocky, or stuck-up. Love, instead, is humble and has a servant attitude. Sometimes, a guy may come across to a girl with an "I can take you or leave you" attitude. His demeanour implies, "You ought to be thankful that somebody as neat as me is dating you." Of course, this is not love.

8. Love always covers. This word cover means to pass over in silence, to keep confidential.

9. Love is patient with the faults of others. It doesn't criticise and broadcast to the world the faults of others.
Love is there even when it knows the other is not perfect.

10. Love always Perseveres. Love always stands its ground and hold out. It will outlast anything. It will even love in the face of unrequited love. Real love will last though all sorts of trials, tribulations and stresses.

11. Love is Not Provoked. This means that love has a long fuse. It does not become irritated and angry. It is not easily offended.

12. Love does not seek its own. This is the heart of love. Love is other-centred rather than self- centred. Love says, "I love you, I want to give to you." Selfishness says, "I love you, I want you!"

13. Love does not act unbecomingly. This means that love does not behave disgracefully, dishonourably or indecently. It does not embarrass others by its action. It is characterised by tact and sensitivity. This also means that love should have good manner. Be sure to do little things like opening doors for your girl, or offering her your arm when you walk together.

14. Lastly, Love is forgiving. This is a MUST for a successful love story. If a guy is not willing to forgive and forget when his girlfriend is one hour late, he is not exhibiting love. Love doesn't hold grudges when it has been
wronged. It doesn't remain resentful.

** Remember this: Love forgets past failures and sins. **

The Meanings Of Roses

ROSE: Love, passion, perfection. The rose was named for the Latin word rosa which means red. It has been a symbol of love since ancient times. Associated with the fifthteenth wedding anniversary. It is also known as the birthflower of June.

ROSE, BURGUNDY: Beauty within.

ROSE, CORAL: Desire.

ROSE, DARK CRIMSON: Mourning.

ROSE, HIBISCUS: Delicate beauty.

ROSE, LAVENDER: Love at first sight, enchantment.

ROSE, LEAF: You may hope.

ROSE, MOSS: Confessions of love.

ROSE, ORANGE: Fascination, display feeling of enthusiasm.

ROSE, PEACH: Desire, gratitude, apprecation, admiration, sympathy, modesty.

ROSE, PINK: Happiness, appreciation, admiration, friendship, sympathy.

ROSE, DARK PINK: Thankfulness.

ROSE, LIGHT PINK: Grace, gladness, joy, perfect happiness, please believe me, gratitude, admiration, gentility.

ROSE, RED: Love, passion, respect, courage, I love you, beauty, pure and lovely, prosperity.

ROSE, DEEP RED: Un-selfconscious beauty.

ROSE, SINGLE, FULL BLOOM: I love you, I still love you, new love.

ROSE, BUD, SMALL: Pure and lovely, beauty and youth, a heart innocent of love.

ROSE, THORNLESS: Love at first sight.

ROSE, WHITE: Innocence, purity, secrecy, I am worthy of you, silence, friendship, truth, virtue, girlhood, humility spiritual love, but of the soul, reverence, charm, happy love.

ROSE, WHITE, DRIED: Death is preferable to loss of virtue.

ROSE, YELLOW: Joy, friendship, true love, decrease of love, jealousy, try to care, freedom, slighted love, shows “I care”, joy, gladness.

ROSES, BOUQUET, MATURE: Gratitude.

ROSES, RED & WHITE TOGETHER: Unity, flower emblem of England.

ROSES, YELLOW & RED TOGETHER: Happiness, congratulations.

ROSES, YELLOW & ORANGE TOGETHER: Passionate thoughts.

Gain Some Insight Into A Shy Girl's Mind

Learn how to get insight into a shy girl's mind whether or not she's interested in you.

Steps
1. Walk up to her and ask her, or if she's just too shy for that, send an email to her, saying:
2. Say "Hi, I would like to ask you a question, can I? I should say that I want to tell you something, is this all right with you? Anyway, I will tell you later."
3. Give her time to think about that question. Once you meet her, just greet her but without any conversation. Smile at her, then walk away.
4. Be patient. Within a few days, if the girl works up her courage to ask what question you wanted to ask her, or what it was you wanted to say to her - it means she may have feelings for you.


Tips
* Be patient. Bide your time and just wait. Give her a couple of days, she is shy.
* Realize that many shy girls aren't really all that shy, once they've had a couple conversations with you, and others might turn out to not really be shy at all, but they're just quiet-natured. If they're in the second category, realize that it's a long-term thing that you have to be okay with.
* Treat her like she's a normal person, many people are not shy but are forced to be due to certain things like unpopularity
* Treat her like a girl. Just because she's shy doesn't mean you have to treat her differently.
* Be yourself she won't like you if you are trying to be someone your not

CAUTION
* If she suddenly replies to your email saying she doesn't want to know, or tries to stay away from you, that means she doesn't like you. Then you can send an email to her saying:
o "Actually one of your friends told me that you say I'm a weird guy. Did you? I didn't believe you'd say that..." In this way, you save face. If she asks which friend said that, just say, "I don't like to pass names. Just someone. Look, it's not important, never mind."

One In A Million

Boy, I love this song. Even had it on a friend's wedding video I did for them. Decided to share it with you guys. Can't seem to get enough of this song. Enjoy!

Bosson Lyrics
One In A Million Lyrics

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When We First Met

When I first met you,
I felt the strangest feeling ever
I know I never told you,
But it meant something

I kept thinking about you,
All the way home..
I didn't even know you,
I was acting cool & as if you were not even there

We talked and laughed,
But I didn't even know your name!!

I think I liked u that day,
You told me once that you didn't like me at all that day
Am not sure about that actually but..
That day passed.. it was so weird.. I told my friends about you

MONTHS passed..i had a close friend
He accidentally fell in love with me..

Then by coincidence I ran into you again,
Dont know why but my heart kept pumping heavily
My face turned REDDD,you smiled
And I turned my face away

I was kinda in a relationship
But that wasn't the reason I acted weird
I actually dont know the reason till now
I saw you many times later but I still acted weird

I knew you were looking at me and wondering
Days passed and we didn't talk..you said nothing and I acted cool..

Overcome That Loneliness

Overcoming loneliness can be a big problem for many people but often they can hide it so well you would have no idea they were lonely unless they told you. One of my Aussie friends who also lives in Bangkok was telling me over lunch last weekend how he is so lonely at the moment he is thinking about closing his very successful business and returning to Australia. It got me thinking about the concept of overcoming loneliness and I started to wonder what it is that brings on feelings of loneliness and why is it that people spend years being lonely while others rarely feel lonely. I think everyone at some stage in their life has gone through periods of dealing with loneliness so I decided to write an article about overcoming loneliness as it can really be a debilitating problem if not dealt with.

Although you may be around numerous people almost all day everyday overcoming loneliness can still be a miserable part of your life. When you are around a lot of other people who you may work with or go to school with but are not necessarily friends with, loneliness feels even worse. Why I think loneliness is worse when many other people are around you is because all those other people serve to enforce a fear in you that nobody cares about you. You see these people everyday and you probably have to interact with some of them but they do not even know the real you. You end up getting the feeling that most people although generally friendly are quite impersonal. This forces you into wanting to get away from this impersonal place as soon as the work or school day is over and retreat to your own safety zone like your home but sadly you usually get back to your thoughts about how to overcome loneliness.

After you arrive home you initially feel good to be away from all those people but then a horrible sense of loneliness sets in and then fear takes its grip on you. You may not even be a fearful person but the longer you let yourself suffer with your issues of how to overcome loneliness the more you have to be fearful of. Let me give you an example. You are cruising through life, having fun, socializing, you have a cool girlfriend or boyfriend and then suddenly your life is turned upside down when you lose your job. Soon after your girlfriend leaves and then you are alone. It does not take you long to find another job and suddenly you are surrounded by people again but you just do not seem to connect with any of your new work associates and your old work friends are too busy to spend time with you as you are both so busy with work and life. You may even go on a few dates but do not manage to hook up with anyone compatible and over a period of months you start spending more and more time at home and less time around friends or socializing. All of a sudden you realize you are lonely and the more you think about it the more the problem of overcoming loneliness grips your entire life and the more lonely you feel. After a while you begin to live on autopilot, you go to work or school but the rest of the time you are alone. Without even being aware of it you are suddenly waste deep in fear. You fear being alone, you fear going out to find a new partner as you just do not have the confidence you once had in yourself and you are fearful of other people since you have come to believe most people only care about themselves and are generally impersonal. Suddenly you actually give up on the idea of overcoming loneliness and you begin to accept it as just part of your life. You did not always feel this way but after an extended period of loneliness you do now and you cannot see it getting any better. So what has ultimately happened is, your fear has pushed away everyone in your life and as you remain in fear you remain in a state of loneliness.

This is just an example of one way loneliness can set in without you being completely conscious of what is happening before it is too late. One minute you are on top of the world and the next minute you are trapped in the void of dealing with loneliness. It can happen to literally anyone from all walks of life, from the young to the old or from the poorest to the richest. So who can help you? Well, you can certainly help yourself and turn things around by taking action.

Once you are fully aware of your loneliness and you want to improve your situation this is the perfect time to look at who you are, where you are in life and where do you want to be. The answers to these questions might be able to not only guide you towards overcoming loneliness but steer you in a more desirable life direction.

By looking at who you are you need to ask yourself what is making you feel lonely. Are you afraid of rejection and this is why you spend all your time alone. If so, this is a fear that needs to be tackled head on. Facing this fear is the only way you will overcome loneliness. There are numerous ways you can meet new people without having to go to bars or clubs which are not ideal places to meet partners or friends. Joining groups of like minded people is a real winner and even more fun if you can take a friend who shares your interests. Like minded people get on with others who like what they like, it is that simple and suddenly you might find that overcoming your loneliness is a thing of the past.

Where do you see yourself in life? Do you feel like you should be more successful? If so, you need to make a plan to work on that area of your life but don’t make the mistake of thinking you are not good enough or successful enough to make new friends or find a new partner. Most genuine people do not really care about the superficial things as much as they care about the real you. Overcoming loneliness requires you to be proactive. Be honest about yourself and where you are and have a concrete plan of where you are headed. Even if you are not there yet, people love to spend their time around people who know what they want and a new partner or friend might love to jump on board your motorway to succes and in turn help you to overcome loneliness.

Once you take a long hard look at who you are and where you are in life you might find that you feel lonely because you do not have a partner. At this point you need to access why you need a partner. Some people feel they need someone else in their life to feel complete, others are so tied up with partners they wish they were alone. You need to put things in perspective before you can make the right choices. Sometimes effectively overcoming loneliness requires another solution than just finding a partner. If you feel you need a partner to make you happy, then you need to ask yourself what a partner can do for you that you cannot do for yourself. I am not saying you do not need a partner, it is great having a partner, but you need to figure out what role that partner will take in your life. You want a partner for the right reasons and the right reason is not to be dependent on someone else because that can only lead to pain. You want a partner as a companion not as a security blanket.

Overcoming loneliness my involve taking some risks. You may have been emotionally hurt before and scared to take that risk again but the longer you fight it the harder it will be to get back. It is definitely worth taking a risk, a safe secure life alone will never be rewarding. The same thing goes for people who care too much about what others think or expect. If this is your fear you will never be free until you break those invisible chains imposed by the opinions of others. Forget about what other people think and live your life on your terms not theirs. The only people you ever need concern yourself with are not the ones who are judging you. People who judge are ultimately so insecure they are really only judging themselves.

You can overcome loneliness by taking action and you can take action on a number of levels. If you are not overly confident it is best to take small steps towards meeting people. Meeting through friends is usually one of the safest and easiest ways to meet new friends and potential partners. By joining groups, clubs or learning programs you can selectively choose to meet the types of people that like what you like and you may be surprised when you find what you have been looking for. In this infinite universe of energy, like is attracted to like, it is a scientific fact.

Source: http://www.universeofsuccess.com/overcoming-loneliness.html

Errol Clarke
You Felt Alone,
And Felt So Down
Until Today
When You Hit The Ground
Our Hearts Just Dropped
And Forced To Frown
What Are We Gonna Do?
Now That You Arent Around?
Memories Keep You
Tied To Us
But Some Too Painful
And Some Too Rough
But Now We Can't Just
Act Tough
How Are We Suppose to forget you
and all the things that we went through

World’s Most Romantic Hotels

There are innumerable superb hotels and resorts in the world but you’re supposed to be pretty choosy to pick the best one to snuggle with your partner. The most romantic hotels and resorts where you can only let your hearts speak out loud.

1. The Banyan Tree Resorts - Maldives

Cast away in the prestigious Banyan Tree Resorts in the Maldives. You experience the white sandy beach, crystal clear water and a cry of gulls. Nothing can better boost your romance than this place.

2. Sila Evason Hideaway & Spa - Samui Island, Thailand

No questions asked about spas in Thailand. Sila Evason Hideaway & Spa features the most romantic and enjoyable sense that the finest spa has to offer. Indulge in heaven on earth among a lovely atmosphere with your date

3. Dugong Beach Lodge - Mozambique

Let exotic fish witness your romance at Dugong Beach Lodge where crystal clear water and breathtaking beach are its hallmark.

4. Al Moudira Hotel - Egypt

Treat your date like a king or a queen at Al Moudira Hotel, a unique luxurious 5-star hotel which makes your date a very special one indeed.

5. Oberoi Mauritius Hotel - Mauritius

Oberoi Mauritius Hotel is a paradise hidden on earth for lovers. The place is surrounded by the splendour of nature and is totally a dream destination for a romantic date and honeymoon.

6. Le Meridien Resort - French Polynesia

Looking for a romantic place for your special date? The magnificent Le Meridien Resort is definitely your very first choice. The over-water bungalows will make lovers feel they are the only couple in the universe.

7. One&Only Spa Palmilla - Mexico

One&Only Spa Palmilla is truly a romantic getaway. The sublime services, including the treatments of blended Mexican, Asian and global accents and the elegant atmosphere are always available for couples to be pampered.

8.Tsurunoyu Onsen - Japan

Tsurunoyu Onsen is a romantic hot Spring Resort decorated with its traditional wooden buildings, indoor and outdoor baths. In winter, the entire region is a snow-covered wonderland among the beautiful mountains of northern Honshu

9. Chateau Elan Resort - Atlanta, United States

Chateau Elan Resort is a romantic location which is far away from the bustle and hustle. The great view of a massive vineyard and all the sublime amenities makes the resort one of the best resorts in the US.

10. Four Seasons Hotel - Los Angeles, US

Four Season Hotel is one of the world’s most luxurious hotels. The upscale hotel is located in the world’s many major cities, including Los Angeles. Delight your special date at the divine paradise on earth.

11. Aman-i-Khas - India

Located right next to Rajasthan’s Ranthambhore National Park, Aman-i-Khas rules all the boutique resorts in India. The resort features only 10 exclusive tents, showing a cultural beauty.

12. Pangkor Laut Resort - Malaysia

Considered the most exotic resort in Asia, Malaysian Pangkor Laut Resort is a combination of elegance and natural splendour where peace and delight are lavishly found. Sitting on the ocean, the place is a perfect getaway.

13. Le Sereno Villa - Italy

Le Sereno Villa is located near the beach front on the Grand Cul de Sac Beach with the most spectacular scenic view you can ever imagine. The Villa’s private garden and terrace make the place the most romantic location for lovers.

14. Puerto Vallarta hotel - Mexico

Puerto Vallarta hotel impresses you since your first step on the hotel’s courtyard, lovely terraced garden, a state-of-the-art pool through a unique and elegant room.

15. Aspen - Colorado, United States

Warm up your romance in a snowy paradise. Aspen is the splendid romantic vacation for lovers who are looking for fun, cosy fireplaces, stunning scenery and marvellous night life. Although the place is freezing, your heart is totally tepid.

16. Riviera Maya resort - Mexico

Paradise really exists in Riviera Maya resort. The place is all you need for the lovely romantic getaway with a wonderful white sandy beaches, crystal clear water, snorkelling, nightlife and sunset cruises.

17. Ice Hotel - Jukkasjarvi, Sweden

One of the world’s most extraordinary and romantic vacations, Ice Hotel in Jukkasjarvi is constructed out of ice and really incredibly renowned for its warmth, romance and fun.

18. Whistler - Canada

The splendid resort town, Whistler, is famous for its mountain biking and alpines skiing and will host the Vancouver 2010 Winter Olympic and Paralympic Games. With its spectacular view of snow-covered mountains, you are guaranteed a lovely, romantic date.

19. Igloo Village - Finland

The village features 20 snow igloos for sleeping, bar made of ice and five extraordinary Glass igloos where lovers are allowed to sleep under the Lapp sky, counting glittering stars among the warm temperature in the igloo.

20. Hotel Iso- Syote - Finland

Iso- Syote hotel is located in the top of Finland’s southern most fall in perfect isolation. In winter, the place attracts both skiers and couples for adventure and romance. Thanks to its location, it’s without a doubt a truly romantic spot for lovers.

21. Emirates Palace Hotel - United Arab Emirates (UAE)

The magnificent Arabia hotel fabulously lines along the beautiful private beach which makes it the perfect place to relax and indulge. Surprise your date with a helicopter which the hotel supplies to pick you up from the airport.

22. Paraiso de la Bonita Resort & Spa - Mexico

Paraiso de la Bonita Resort & Spa is an upscale resort where remarkable ambience and privacy are its priority. Enjoy a luxury suite, a private terrace in front of the sea and the finest dinner by candlelight.

23. The Caves Resort- Jamaica

Despite being a tiny resort, The Caves provides outstanding levels of romantic atmosphere with the cottages built above the sapphire sea water and fantastic sunset views along the cliff. The resort is just worth returning.

24. Hotel Cipriani - Italy

Located in the famous Venice of Italy, hotel Cipriani is a supremely romantic hotel which is perfect for travellers looking for luxurious pampering. A Jacuzzi set within a fountain and splendid views from the hotel guarantee your memorable experience.

25. Fairmont Olympic Hotel - Washington, United States

Fairmont Olympic Hotel is situated in the heart of Seattle and only footsteps from many fantastic tourist attractions. The hotel is famous for its gorgeous Italian Renaissance architecture and elegance which make the hotel the destination for romantic date and honeymoon.

26. Mykonos Grand Hotel - Greece

Elegant and Greek beauty surrounds you once you step in Mykonos Grand Hotel. Besides luxurious suits with private pool, the gorgeous balcony and view are extremely stunning.

27. Jade Mountain St. Lucia

Swim in a splendid pool among the sunshine and Caribbean nature, then you will sense a real paradise. Jade Mountain provides unparalleled beauty which earns a place in everyone’s heart.

28. Las Ventanas al Paraiso - Mexico

The tropical paradise, Las Ventanas al Paraiso, is best known for its elegant accommodations and unrivalled surroundings. Indulge yourself with your date at the hotel where you can absolutely get spoiled.

29. Lebua At State Tower - Bangkok, Thailand

Run away from hustle and bustle with Lebua At State Tower which is located next to Chao Phraya River, guests can be delighted with spectacular views of Bangkok night. Enjoy the outdoor dinning spot on the top of the hotel in the midst of dazzling stars and cool air.

30. Howard Hotel - Edinburgh, Scotland

One of the most romantic getaways in Europe, the 5 star Howard Hotel offers excellent service and the most romantic atmosphere ever. Treat your loved one with fabulous champagne in an elegant suit, it’s just an unforgettable stay.

Source: http://www.juicemag.co.uk/the-worlds-most-romantic-hotels