How To Show Someone You're Interested

by Mike Hardcastle
for About.com




All you need is an attraction to another person and the desire to show them how you feel.

Here's How:

1. Create opportunities for you to see each other. This might include secretly waiting in the hall or sitting near him/her at lunch.
2. Make eye contact and smile!
3. When you pass him/her in the hall, say 'Hi!'
4. Get to know some of his/her friends
5. If you have a class together, ask him/her a question about it.
6. Ask him/her about something you know s/he is interested in.
7. Ask if s/he wants to hang out sometime.

Tips:

1. If you're like me, sending these signals can be scary. Start small and work your way up to the tougher steps.
2. Don't set yourself up to get hurt, make sure you haven't put your entire self-worth into whether or not s/he responds to your signals.

The Wallet ...

When I was little, I had wanted to write a love story, and I had wanted it to be the most romantic love story ever.

One day after school, I sat down and began my mission, my masterpiece was going to be a reality, I remember thinking.

The story was of a young school girl. One day, after school, she walked home. Unlike most afternoons, on that day, she stumbled upon a wallet. Picking it up, she opened the wallet and in it was a picture of a boy, about her age, and very smart looking. She tried to look for an address, and flipped the picture over. A love poem greeted her. I was determined to pen the most romantic poem to match the picture, but alas, till this day, I am still 'looking' for the most romantic poem of all...

Anyhow, the poem warms her to the boy. There was something in the boy that caught her fancy, was it his eyes, or was it the poem he penned at the back of his picture? She couldn't tell.

Soon, she caught herself staring at the picture all the time, even during lessons. How could she find him? Where does he live? What's his name?

One night, something strange happened...

The boy in the picture appeared in her dream, told him his name was Joseph, and he lived a few blocks away. And he asked her in her dream, would she mind meeting him at a park nearby their homes?

Her reaction was of course what you guess it would be, she waited for this Joseph after school the following day and hoped that her dream the night before was for real.

She couldn't belief her eyes when soon, this boy did walk by the park! She was so excited she drop some books she was holding. The boy, being a nice gentleman ( the way I wanted him to be), stride up to her, gave her the warmest smile ever, and helped her with her books. Oh my! Her heart were pounding, she felt so sure he could tell she was flushing. Could he hear her heart beat which was beating wildly too?

I then proceeded to make the two characters met regularly at the park, in the evening, after school. And the fun times they had together, helping each other with the home works, and playing games together when there were no homeworks.

Like some other love stories, I was going to drop the bombshell...if the readers haven't guessed already. How come the boy only appeared in the evenings? Why can't he come out on Sunday mornings?

All fun things, sweet things, romantic things, great things must come to an end...oh so sad! One night, Joseph appeared in her dream. In it, he looked so smart, his eyes sparkled like diamonds, there seem to be an aura of light about him and he flashed his sweetest smile on her, as usual. Then, lowering his head, he told her he need to make a confession. Its time for him to leave. The door to Heaven is opened and a guardian angel was there to guide him back to the Lord... The wallet she found that fateful day. He did not accidentally drop it. He was cycling home after school one day, and a car suddenly appeared from nowhere and rammed into him. His wallet flew off at the impact. He got up, but discovered to his horror that the people nearby could not see nor hear him. Later, he discovered he had died in the accident.

Joseph then told the young girl he saw her picking up his wallet and caught her staring at his picture all the time. He thought she was the most beautiful girl he had ever seen and he felt 'honoured' each time she looked at his picture. Somehow, he learned to enter the dreams of the living, and that was how he entered her dream. But, it was time for him to say good bye.

Yeah, I was guilty of making the same scene, the girl pleading for him to stay, she was crying tons of tears, and all that stuff. And that was my unpublished love story that I wrote when I was very young.

all i want for christmas is you

Merry Christmas, Everybody !!!

Everytime We Touch by Cascada

A favourite video of mine, the Final Fantasy animations blended well with this song. A lovely song by Cascada.

why do we always hurt the ones we love

Here we go again,
Hurting each other for no reason
Wondering why we keep committing the same mistakes.
Sometimes I'm feeling
That it's more than just illusion
Tell me why we keep pretending
Are we so scared of give and take?
Ohh...

CHORUS:
Why do we always hurt the ones we love?
(Why?)
Just when it seems we've finally made it through
Why can't we fly between the eagle and the dove?
Why do we always hurt the ones we love?

BRIDGE:
When you cry, the tears were falling like raindrops
From my eyes...why do we do hurt each other?
Tell me why we shouldn't try, are there some things we didin't share?
Why do I see you walking out right w/ me,
I see you standing here?

-INSTRUMENTAL-

Tell me why... do we hurt the ones we love? (Why?)
When we've finally made it through why can't we fly between the eagle and the dove?
Why do we always hurt the ones we love...ohh...

How To Cope with Unrequited Love

Sometimes the person you're in love with doesn't love you back. Believe it or not, it happens to almost everybody. In any case, unrequited love is painful: It can even feel like torture. Find out how to make the best of it with these tips.

1. Limit the amount of time you spend with the person who doesn't love you. If you can, don't see them for a while.
2. Come to terms with the fact that they don't share your romantic feelings. You need to accept that it's just not meant to be so you can move on with your life.
3. Try writing a mantra such as "It's time to move on" on a slip of paper and placing it in your jacket pocket. Every time you reach into the pocket, pull out the slip of paper, recite the words in your mind, and put it back into the pocket. This will help reinforce your commitment to getting on with the rest of your life.
4. Stay busy. Take up a new hobby such as painting, skateboarding or playing the drums. Join a sports team or work your frustrations out through exercise. It doesn't matter whether it's running, swimming or squash: Find something you like and commit yourself to it. Both your body and your heart will feel better.
5. Surround yourself with those who do love you. This could be your parents, grandparents, siblings, other friends or even pets. Don't be afraid to ask them for a little bit of extra moral support.
6. Hang around with friends who make you laugh. Chances are, at least one of your friends is brilliant at getting your mind off of the person who's causing you pain. Let them help you not take life too seriously.
7. Take some time each day to focus on a few of your good qualities. Remind yourself that you're a great person even if someone out there doesn't like you in a romantic way. Think about what other qualities you'd like to have -- more confidence, better taste in music, better dance skills, etc. -- and set some goals about attaining them.
8. Remind yourself that it would not be any fun to be with someone who didn't feel as strongly about you as you did about them. Think about what love should like and notice how equality plays a big part. You deserve to be treated the way you want to be treated!
9. Remember another emotionally difficult situation you've been through and how you got through it. Adopt some of the strategies you used in that situation to help you heal from this heartbreak.
10. Take a little time to nurture yourself, whether it's with a good few good books or movies, some extra time with friends or simply getting a bit more sleep.
11. When you're ready, start hanging out with other people you'd consider dating. Give yourself the chance to fall in love again and you undoubtedly will.

How To Know When It's Love

Found this piece of article on the web. And decides to publish it here because some of the advices are what I'm using. What irony!


You feel very strongly for another person and want to know if what you're feeling is the real deal. Ask yourself these difficult questions.

Here's How:

1. Ask yourself: 'Would I be willing to let her/him go if I believed it was the best thing?'
2. Ask yourself: 'Am I willing to wait for this person if s/he is not ready to have sex?'
3. Ask yourself: 'Would I feel the same way if s/he gained weight?'
4. Ask yourself: 'Am I willing to sacrifice my dreams to allow her/his dreams to come true?'
5. Ask yourself: 'Do I respect and admire her/him?'
6. Ask yourself: 'Would I feel the same way if s/he got sick?'
7. Ask yourself: 'If you two were in an argument, would you feel the same way?'
8. If you answered 'No' to any of these questions, think about why you gave that answer. Is it a lack of trust? Is it because you're afraid? Is it selfishness? Do you need more time to get to know each other?
9. If you answered 'Yes' to all of these questions, wow, you feel very strongly about this person. It sounds like you're in love!

Te amo, Cristina

This photo was taken in Antigua, Guatemala. On each note is the message, "Te amo, Cristina." -



This image is part of the "Winners of the 2008 International Photo Contest" (in People, Places and Nature categories) by National Geographic - click to see more